As the country battles over whether or not trans kids can play sports on teams of their own gender, my own transgender child just started playing ball. It’s merely a local recreational little league, a team of girls playing on the boy’s baseball coach pitch league because there weren’t enough girls to make a softball league. And none of the girls wanted to play on the boys’ teams.

After many swings and misses last night, my daughter was still all smiles. She loved learning how to play first base, and even though it was only the first game of the…


Taco Soy Curls with garlic black beans, rice and pinto beans and our fabulous potato/carrot/cashew cheese sauce.

Anyone who knows us has heard us talking about soy curls. And that’s because they came along and knocked our hand-knitted socks off and changed our little vegan, plant-based lives. They have the perfect consistency we’ve been missing in our cooking. They take on flavor great and are so convincing that most people wouldn’t know they weren’t meat if you didn’t tell them and seasoned it right.

We were afraid to jump into trying soy curls. For years. I do not know why because it turns out they are fabulous and not hard at all! Please give them a try…


#1. Emotionally supporting my transgender child is a life-and-death decision.

Really. Truly. Honestly. And statistically — with lots of actual data to back it up.

If I choose not to support my child (and/or my child is forced into environments where they are not supported), the chances of her harming herself goes up to 85% or higher. The chances of her attempting suicide if she is not supported are anywhere between 40% to 60%. All studies agree that the self-harm rates are very high for gender-creative kids who are not in supportive environments.

But a transgender or non-binary child who…


I’ve been having trouble sleeping, which isn’t really news, considering our country is a sinking ship. Insomnia is an old friend, if you can call it that. Not necessarily welcome but familiar as my own arm.

These are scary times we are living in. Even the willfully ignorant among us are pushed smack up against their own mortality and our place in an increasingly divisive and dangerous world. I think all of us aren’t sleeping well, we just call the reasons by different names.

I’ve been trying to take what is happening — in my home and my life and…


We didn’t realize what we were embarking on when our family began our whole food plant-based journey three years ago, nor did we know how much we were about to learn and change. My husband and I didn’t know we would lose 150 pounds between the two of us. We didn’t know we’d get off all our blood pressure, cholesterol, diabetes and stomach meds. We didn’t know it would cure our lifelong eczema and our seasonal allergies.

We only knew that the standard American Diet (and every fad it offered) were not working for us, and that if we didn’t…


Savannah the baby gamer and her favorite game The Last of Us

We are all stretching out of our comfort zones and learning a new version of parenting as we work our way through these strange and uncertain times. I thought I’d share a story of our own adventures into the jaws of parenting — with a healthy dose of mom guilt attached for good measure — for all the parents out there also just taking it one moment at a time.

This spring I ordered myself some video games for mindful entertainment. I wanted something to take my brain far away from the real world and allow me to release frustrations…


George Floyd and The Violence of Change

In the wake of George Floyd being publicly murdered by an officer while other officers stood by and watched, I woke up to the expected swarms of white people swinging at anyone who questions or condemns an officers excessive use of force. I’m not sure why we have to clarify this, but if an officer can’t keep their cool to do their job safely, they shouldn’t be in that job. If they purposefully want to hurt people or think certain people are intrinsically “bad,” they certainly shouldn’t be given a gun and a…


Some days I wake up and I feel like it’s going to be okay. The sun is shining, the kids aren’t fighting, and nothing in the morning news sets me into a panic. On good days I can see the odds are slim that any of my immediate family will get very sick and I’m so thankful that we are healthy.

On good days, we read lots of books and maybe I even get time to write or do yoga. Or we all take a walk and the fresh air is rejuvenating. We all sit down to watch a funny…


Most of you know the story of our amazing daughter and how bravely she walks through the world being true to herself. You know how she uses her voice (and taught us about using ours) to make it safer for everyone to be their authentic selves. She has taught us about what is real and what actually matters.

She’s been telling us for about 9 months now that she wished she had a prettier name, and that grew into some anxiety this month with having a boy in her class named Lincoln.

This weekend she asked us to remind her…


We live in divisive and trying times. We all know it and we all feel it, no matter how much we try to “stay out of it” or avoid confrontation. The toxicity of these days has seeped into the air, the water, every pore of our skin and our relationships. We can’t escape it because it’s everywhere.

This can make it feel impossible to decide what battles to pick, which fights to take on and which to let go of. What incident needs defending and what situation needs cooling off. …

Michelle Roth Baade

Truth-teller. Writer. Photographer. Banjo/guitar/ukulele player. Mom to four kids, one is transgender. Married to my favorite person. www.michellerothwrites.com

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